I don’t have the worst posture, but it’s by no means perfect. Hunching my head a bit is a tendency I developed growing up, being slightly taller than the average (I’m about exactly 6 foot). Since starting my job where I work in front of a laptop all day, I’ve noticed some moderate back pain due to hunching over too much. I’ve also noticed that when I’m not in the mood to confront people or don’t feel like being noticed (on the subway in my morning commute, for example) I employ the slight ducking of the head that just kinda keeps me separate from the world, not having to make eye contact with everyone I pass. Furthermore, when I’m walking around and pass an extremely hot chick , I’ve noticed that I have this automatic reaction to shrink down a little and employ the slight head duck, and have to purposely correct myself every time. It’s an almost completely unconscious defense mechanism, and I know that it’s not helping.
So in my pursuit of being a “10″ I’ve decided to decimate this bad posture and constantly check myself all day long, as I’m walking around the city, as well as when I’m sitting in front of my computer, and everywhere else. There are 2 points in my back where I tend to slouch. First is the point where my neck attaches to my head, and the second is down near my tailbone, where I’ve noticed that I allow my ass to jut out slightly behind me, and when I observed my posture in a full-length mirror, to correct it I had to press my hips forward so I’m leading with my dick, spread the shoulders out a little wider and allow them to fall back, and lift my head straight up. With the head, I’ve read that it helps to imagine there’s an invisible wire attached to the crown of your head and drawing it straight up. This definitely helped me.
Here are my results after 1 week of correcting my posture to be straight as a rail all day long…
Self-consciousness in the beginning
The first thing I noticed is that when I walk into a room or a subway car or whatever, most eyes turn to me immediately. It’s like everybody sizes you up because you look interesting I guess, or maybe slightly threatening.. not sure. This is still the most difficult thing at this point, because it’s like you have to be accountable for your behavior all day long, because people are more aware of your presence. Half of it is probably just in my head, but nonetheless it can be difficult in the morning when I’m tired and just want to get to work, forcing myself to stand up taller and make eye contact as I’m passing the masses of people… but after a minute of doing it, I definitely feel better and more positive about the day.
I also think I associate good posture with being more aggressive, like a meat-head or something, and at first I think it put me in a more aggressive almost angry mood, but I decided to reframe that. So now (It sounds pretty stupid, but it has been effective for me) I think about British princes and how they would make them walk with books on their head and shit, and that makes me feel less like a steroid-enhanced guido. It also makes you feel a little more entitled to good things coming your way, and more likely to be nice to people.
Some pain/tiredness at first
The muscles in my lower back were used to carrying me in a different way, so this constant readjusting was tiring for the first couple days. I’ve noticed already that my back is getting stronger in those two places and it’s just a matter of time before the posture is completely natural, because obviously it’s better for my back to be straight than hunched. This tiredness was most noticeable last night in the club i was at, because we were there for a good 3 hours or so, and I barely sat down. But I just remind myself that it’s like working out, and will get easier.
Girls give tons of IOIs & Open more consistently
This is undeniably true. This past week I have gotten many, many more looks from chicks than usual. Lifting your head the extra inch to be completely straight up is like a signal flare to hot chicks that you’re a confident guy. This was really noticeable to me last night in the club because most of the other guys there look like fags anyway, and there were a lot of girls that would hold eye contact with me for a looong time. Furthermore, the other night in another bar, a random chick walked by and grabbed my ass as she was walking out the door, and 2 minutes later another lady comes up and goes “Hey I just wanted to let you know that my friend over there thinks you’re really hot, but don’t tell her I said anything or she’ll be mad at me.” This kind of shit has never happened to me as regularly as it has this past week. Today on the subway a girl was staring at me the entire ride. She wasn’t really that hot and it kinda creeped me out, but still lol.
Last night after the club I approached 4 separate groups of chicks, all walking down the street with the opener “HEY quick question … … what’s cuter, puppies or kittens?” Stupid shit, and I was making sure to keep my posture up and my voice projecting clearly. The first group, I grabbed a #. Second group, got one chick stopped for a few mins while her friends walked blocks beyond her.. She wasn’t that cute tho so I brought her back to find her friends and peaced. The third group definitely looked like they were gonna stop, but I clawed the chick in front and she goes “Oh no, nobody touches me!” and they kept walking .. lol. Fourth group had literally just blown my 2 friends out 15 feet earlier down the street, and I was comin from the opposite direction, got them to stop and talk to me for a good 10 mins and I took some little spanish chick’s number.
Increased Confidence
Once you get over the awkward slight self-consciousness of standing straighter, it really makes you feel better and more confident when you’re standing straight up. It’s like you have 2 choices – either duck your head and avert your eyes, and move unnoticed through the crowd, or lift your head up and accept the fact that you’re confident. You can’t unconfidently walk around with great posture. Your mind just goes “oh, I guess I’m more confident now that I’m walking confidently. Ok.”
Black dudes say what’s up
A pretty funny thing I’ve noticed is that black dudes will occasionally give me a “whats up” head nod in the street. It cracks me up.
Strangers ask me for directions & other stuff more often
I guess I just look more friendly and approachable now. Just random things. Guy asking directions on the street, another guy asking whether I’d been waiting a long time for the train, a bouncer at a bar didn’t check my ID and just went “You come here all the time, have a good time man” .. I’ve never been to that bar before .. Bartenders notice me faster when I want a drink, the list goes on. There are direct lines of communication between myself and the people around me, because I’m not sheltering myself with unconscious ways of hiding from my environment.
Being noticed is a very good thing. So far, I’d say that making good posture a daily habit is one of the biggest immediate improvements I’ve made in my game in a while.
Summary
If you feel like there’s any small margin of improvement you can make in your posture, I would make that my #1 priority. Don’t just go, “Oh my posture is pretty good, I’ve mostly got that handled..” because that’s what I assumed for years and it didn’t do me any good. It’s literally an instant shift in your game. That final inch on your height. You might be tempted to allow your posture to revert back to prior ways during the day, or when you’re not thinking about picking up chicks, but that is a failure. It’s gotta be all day long, so that when that hot chick surprises you from around the corner, you’re ready for her. There are many perks from it beyond just getting chicks, your entire world is more enjoyable every day. Do itttt.
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