If a man feels awkward saying or doing almost anything, then he is not in the right place in his head.  Tyler Durden talks about “Unstifling” yourself in the blueprint, and let me tell you, he could not be more right.  You cannot ever let the universe weigh you down, dude.  You can’t allow other people to hold you to their expectations.  You have to be a force, man.  A fucking unpredictable, positive train of energy barreling towards the next station.  You need to be out there wreaking havoc, and you need friends who are looking for the same.

You just can’t overestimate the importance of having good friends.  When I lose a really good friend (so far due only to geographical differences, luckily) it’s like a piece of myself is left behind as well.  All those stories and adventures we shared together, the dynamic of our friendship that we’d established, all of it seems no longer accessible.  And it hurts.  And it’s so hard to find replacements.  And new friends take time to develop anyway.

But what I’m getting at is that when you have that environment where your closest, craziest friends are all there fucking stirring it up, that is what it means to be on top of the world.  No amount of money, no title, no flashy car, NOTHING can replace that feeling of reckless abandon shared with your closest of pals.  It’s the greatest thing I know.  And yes, you’ll bang chicks easily when that happens.  Just because the chicks will do anything to remain in the light that your glory shines down upon them.  It is the simplest and most elegant seduction – showing them unbridled waves of emotion, and being the coolest guys they’ve ever met, by FAR.

That is why we dominated every woman we brought into our college house.  That is why we had some of the craziest reputations at Rutgers.  Because we worked so hard to bring the party every single night.  When you create an atmosphere that’s more like girls gone wild than a regular everyday party, girls pick up on it and follow along.  But the key is having friends who all work together to build that environment.  We did not invite boring debbie downers to our apartment.  It was game time all the time, and when it’s game time, you’re either on or off.

So in my pursuit of being a “10″ I’ve decided to decimate this bad posture and constantly check myself all day long, as I’m walking around the city, as well as when I’m sitting in front of my computer, and everywhere else.  There are 2 points in my back where I tend to slouch.  First is the point where my neck attaches to my head, and the second is down near my tailbone, where I’ve noticed that I allow my ass to jut out slightly behind me, and when I observed my posture in a full-length mirror, to correct it I had to press my hips forward so I’m leading with my dick, spread the shoulders out a little wider and allow them to fall back, and lift my head straight up.  With the head, I’ve read that it helps to imagine there’s an invisible wire attached to the crown of your head and drawing it straight up.  This definitely helped me.

Here are my results after 1 week of correcting my posture to be straight as a rail all day long…

Self-consciousness in the beginning
The first thing I noticed is that when I walk into a room or a subway car or whatever, most eyes turn to me immediately.  It’s like everybody sizes you up because you look interesting I guess, or maybe slightly threatening.. not sure.    This is still the most difficult thing at this point, because it’s like you have to be accountable for your behavior all day long, because people are more aware of your presence.  Half of it is probably just in my head, but nonetheless it can be difficult in the morning when I’m tired and just want to get to work, forcing myself to stand up taller and make eye contact as I’m passing the masses of people… but after a minute of doing it, I definitely feel better and more positive about the day.

I also think I associate good posture with being more aggressive, like a meat-head or something, and at first I think it put me in a more aggressive almost angry mood, but I decided to reframe that.  So now (It sounds pretty stupid, but it has been effective for me) I think about British princes and how they would make them walk with books on their head and shit, and that makes me feel less like a steroid-enhanced guido.  It also makes you feel a little more entitled to good things coming your way, and more likely to be nice to people.

Some pain/tiredness at first
The muscles in my lower back were used to carrying me in a different way, so this constant readjusting was tiring for the first couple days.  I’ve noticed already that my back is getting stronger in those two places and it’s just a matter of time before the posture is completely natural, because obviously it’s better for my back to be straight than hunched.  This tiredness was most noticeable last night in the club i was at, because we were there for a good 3 hours or so, and I barely sat down.  But I just remind myself that it’s like working out, and will get easier.

Girls give tons of IOIs & Open more consistently
This is undeniably true.  This past week I have gotten many, many more looks from chicks than usual.  Lifting your head the extra inch to be completely straight up is like a signal flare to hot chicks that you’re a confident guy.  This was really noticeable to me last night in the club because most of the other guys there look like fags anyway, and there were a lot of girls that would hold eye contact with me for a looong time.  Furthermore, the other night in another bar, a random chick walked by and grabbed my ass as she was walking out the door, and 2 minutes later another lady comes up and goes “Hey I just wanted to let you know that my friend over there thinks you’re really hot, but don’t tell her I said anything or she’ll be mad at me.”  This kind of shit has never happened to me as regularly as it has this past week.  Today on the subway a girl was staring at me the entire ride.  She wasn’t really that hot and it kinda creeped me out, but still lol.

Last night after the club I approached 4 separate groups of chicks, all walking down the street with the opener “HEY quick question … … what’s cuter, puppies or kittens?” Stupid shit, and I was making sure to keep my posture up and my voice projecting clearly.  The first group, I grabbed a #.  Second group, got one chick stopped for a few mins while her friends walked blocks beyond her.. She wasn’t that cute tho so I brought her back to find her friends and peaced.  The third group definitely looked like they were gonna stop, but I clawed the chick in front and she goes “Oh no, nobody touches me!” and they kept walking .. lol.  Fourth group had literally just blown my 2 friends out 15 feet earlier down the street, and I was comin from the opposite direction, got them to stop and talk to me for a good 10 mins and I took some little spanish chick’s number.

Increased Confidence
Once you get over the awkward slight self-consciousness of standing straighter, it really makes you feel better and more confident when you’re standing straight up.  It’s like you have 2 choices – either duck your head and avert your eyes, and move unnoticed through the crowd, or lift your head up and accept the fact that you’re confident.  You can’t unconfidently walk around with great posture.  Your mind just goes “oh, I guess I’m more confident now that I’m walking confidently.  Ok.”

Black dudes say what’s up
A pretty funny thing I’ve noticed is that black dudes will occasionally give me a “whats up” head nod in the street.  It cracks me up.

Strangers ask me for directions & other stuff more often
I guess I just look more friendly and approachable now.  Just random things.  Guy asking directions on the street, another guy asking whether I’d been waiting a long time for the train, a bouncer at a bar didn’t check my ID and just went “You come here all the time, have a good time man” .. I’ve never been to that bar before .. Bartenders notice me faster when I want a drink, the list goes on.  There are direct lines of communication between myself and the people around me, because I’m not sheltering myself with unconscious ways of hiding from my environment.

Being noticed is a very good thing.  So far, I’d say that making good posture a daily habit is one of the biggest immediate improvements I’ve made in my game in a while.

Summary
If you feel like there’s any small margin of improvement you can make in your posture, I would make that my #1 priority.  Don’t just go, “Oh my posture is pretty good, I’ve mostly got that handled..” because that’s what I assumed for years and it didn’t do me any good.  It’s literally an instant shift in your game.  That final inch on your height.  You might be tempted to allow your posture to revert back to prior ways during the day, or when you’re not thinking about picking up chicks, but that is a failure.  It’s gotta be all day long, so that when that hot chick surprises you from around the corner, you’re ready for her.  There are many perks from it beyond just getting chicks, your entire world is more enjoyable every day.  Do itttt.

Why did I read this book, you ask?  Because I kept fucking hearing about it.  The way chicks talk about it, you can tell that the book taps into their deepest fantasies.  They obsess over it.  It’s become a phenomenon.  Not just teenage girls either, because I originally heard about the book from girls I work with.  I think half the women in America have read it by now.

And who am I?  A guy who likes to bang chicks.  Tapping into their deepest fantasies is a great way to do that.  Does that make me a manipulative asshole?  Of course!  No other description would make me happier.  With that, let us begin.

I actually just finished reading this article, which touches the surface of this topic pretty well, but I don’t think the guy took it quite seriously enough.  So I’m going to add my thoughts.

Women want to be obsessed over by their lover.
This is the absolute moral of the story.  They want to be needed.  They want to be special, irreplaceable, and just as dedicated to him as he is to her.  They don’t really want that player guy, as much as they like the challenge of trying to earn the adoration of so worthy a man.  They just want a man who is high value.  A guy who has options.  An alpha male.  A guy who could take any woman in the room, but for some wild, inexplicable reason, he chooses HER.  Yes, they can get obsessed over a few different archetypes, but the real power of twilight is (the vampire) Edward’s completely ridiculous obsession with (the main character) Bella.  It’s what every woman dreams of – to be completely obsessed over by the ultimate alpha male in her life.  He spends 2 straight days asking her countless questions about her life while they’re in the beginning stages of their relationship before they openly admit their love for each other.  He doesn’t let her ask questions during this time, and he makes her wait her turn.  This drives her nuts because she wants to learn more about his mysterious life, but she also loves to talk about herself. He doesn’t sleep, so he just sits in a chair all night watching her sleep.

Yes, many of the things Edward does in this book are borderline CREEPY.  But since their love is mutual, since he just wants what’s in her best interest at all times, and since he tries multiple times to run away never to see her again and she keeps demanding he come back, his actions are seen as ADORABLE.

The issue in real life application is that most loser guys don’t have enough value to get away with this kind of behavior, so it comes off as supplication.  They do it without the girl being attracted, and they do it needily, begging for value.  When a guy comes in so powerfully that his value is unquestionably higher than the girl’s, and then he reaches her on the emotional level by revealing his weaknesses to her so that she can open up to him in return, he has absolute control over her.  That is the essence of a proper seduction.

To be honest, there were many points in the book where I got a little bored because the time they spent doting over one another can get repetitive once you’re more than halfway through the book.  I think this is a testament to the depth of the feelings that chicks feel when they read this stuff.  I think on average, girls burn through this book in NO time.  I found myself thinking, aren’t they going to get bored with one another?  Don’t they realize that there are other attractive people out there as well?  Wouldn’t Edward just like to get his nut off at some point here?

But the power behind what maintains the electricity between the two of them lies in…

Sexual Tension and Barriers Keeping Them Apart
Since Edward is ready to drink this chick’s blood at any moment because he finds her so unbearably attractive, it requires ultimate restraint just to kiss her without acting on his vampiric urges and taking her life.  There are multiple attractive things going on here:

1. Higher value because he holds her life in his hands at all times.
2. The “evil” dirty side of him being a vampire… it’s the same thing that makes guys want to put it in a chick’s butt all the time.  It’s taboo.
3. It obviously amplifies the importance of every kiss he gives her, which just generally makes these scenes hotter.  It’s similar to when we’re in a bar and we tell a chick that she has to stop turning us on, or we’re afraid we might try to move too fast or some crap, except he has a legitimate excuse that he might end up killing her.  Otherwise, making out gets old quick.
4. A higher cause.  He is trying to be moral and rational, and she just keeps telling him to turn her into a vampire and get it over with.  In non-13 year old metaphor, she’s reaching for the condoms while he is going.. “Let’s do the right thing and think about this!”

Danger, Excitement, and Him Protecting Her
Edward saves her life at least 3 times in this book.  Yes, it’s a little unrealistic.  He drives over 100mph, he can effortlessly lift her whole body with his pinky, etc.  But he doesn’t do this to show off.  There are “forces” in the book that seem to be after her, and with most impressive things that he does, it’s all under the pretense of protecting her.

Guidos are pretty good at creating this element… whenever they emerge from their regular place of residence (the gym) it’s mostly to get into fights with other guidos or drive their retarded little cars around at high speeds blasting loud music on the jersey shore, usually while intoxicated.  Endless excitement.

Cocky Smile, Teasing, Doesn’t Take Her Mood Swings Seriously
Bella gets kind of pissy at him sometimes, and he doesn’t take it seriously, unless she has a legitimate reason to be upset.  He has this cocky grin she always describes that he uses to keep her on her toes and when there’s nothing exciting or emotional going on in the book, he’s usually teasing her just a little or saying quick little witty things.  He doesn’t talk all that much, but when he does it usually serves a purpose.

Eye Contact and Vocal Tonality
Jesus Christ.  If I read one more sentence about the power behind his eye contact or the beautiful, smooth harmony in his voice I’m gonna fucking kill myself.  Literally, they beat it into you.  That WAS the first 100 pages of the book.  And most of the rest of the book as well.  If nothing else, this book has convinced me of the power of eye contact, even from far across a room.  If you really want to affect a woman, spend some serious time focusing on the eye contact you make with everyone in your life, and improve your voice.  They’re your two primary weapons of seduction.  I can’t emphasize it enough.

Good Looks, Clothing & Material Possessions Don’t Hurt
Yes, Edward has all that stuff – designer clothes, the nicest car at school, a sweet hairstyle, etc.  It adds to his value obviously but in the beginning of the book they make a point of having him be completely oblivious to the charming effect he has on girls.  He never even takes note of these things, let alone brag about his stuff.  Bella constantly talks about how perfect he is, but he practically never tries to impress her.  He comes off as completely genuine.  The material possessions are not all that impressive in comparison with the sections where they talk about the power of his eye contact and the rhythm and melody of his voice.  Those are his most powerful assets.

In Summary
If you’re interested in learning how to really get into a chick’s head, I would definitely recommend this book.  It shows you what’s going on in there when she’s extremely attracted to somebody.  The conversations between Edward and Bella are great examples of how to talk to a woman.  More than anything, it makes me think of my relationships with 2 or 3 girls over the course of my life, which I would consider to be my most emotionally intimate relationships.  It definitely brought me back to those times, reminded me of some of the wild ways I would speak to those girls that I’ve forgotten about over time.  It also makes me tempted to choose an extremely hot chick and try to do a long-term seduction, as opposed to going for the one night stand like usual.

The first 100 pages or so, in particular, is the majority of the seduction.  If you’re only reading it for that, you could easily read those pages in a couple of hours. It’s a quick read.  The book does get pretty sweet towards the end even from a guy’s perspective, with some cool vampires hunting each other.  I enjoyed it.  If for no other reason, you could read it to talk to chicks in the bar about your favorite parts of the book.. lmao.

When you’ve been approaching a LOT and making a real habit out of it, it feels like a wild relief to just be able to go to the bar and sit there having a beer.  You feel like all the pressure is off,  and I’ve found it actually makes you better off.  It’s very easy to pull girls because you’re sitting back like a regular dude, not acting weird or creepy or overly energetic or any of that shit that can be miscalibrated when you approach… yet your social skills are finely tuned because you’ve been practicing them hardcore lately, so if a chick does come your way and you end up chatting, you’re probably gonna draw that bitch right into your web.

BUT… if you use this approach for too long, you will grow stifled and anti-social, and revert to your old chodely ways.  Your aggressive social demeanor will fade and your little “alpha energy waves” or whatever will deplete.  Just like with the gym.  You can skip for a while, and when you come back you actually feel STRONGER, because your body has been healing.  But if you wait too long… you will really lose some of that work you put in.

The answer, of course, is balance.  Push yourself on a regular basis… but not so much that you go into overtraining.  Just like you can overtrain in the gym where your body starts to eat itself, you can overtrain in picking up chicks.. you start to feel strung out like a robot, driven more to approach and do stupid little things that are otherwise meaningless to you, and focusing less on the good feelings in your body and the experience itself.

The longer you work out (or pick up chicks) the further you can push yourself and still remain within your comfort zone.  Yet you can never abandon the fundamentals.  Just like you can’t work out for 3 years, get ultra buff, and then say you’ve gotten yourself “in shape” and quit the gym forever … neither can you get pickup “handled” and then quit doing cold approaches and just rely on your social skills.

Exercise and regular routines are always necessary.  It’s about becoming comfortable with your schedule and maintaining that balance between pushing your boundaries and enjoying yourself comfortably so that people fully enjoy your company.